Sometimes, It's Good To Be Nobody

A management guru recently wrote this piece:

Credentials are a fact of life, whether they are degrees, certificates, diplomas, titles or any other qualification or symbolic merit badge. All have their place. They help us to feel confident and encourage others to have confidence in us. They verify our education and experience, support our case to be allowed to lead or manage and tell others that they can rely on our expertise.

Where credentials get in the way is when a person becomes preoccupied or even obsessed with them. Then they start to lose their identity and become that credential instead. They only feel like a 'somebody' because they have the right credentials and so allow that part of their identity to become bigger than all the rest.

At work, at home and even at play, they can't separate their real selves from their assumed, credential-based identity. They wear it like a cloak. It becomes their brand.

So, are you a "somebody" — or a "something?"

When someone becomes their credentials, they keep on reminding you of it — in formal meetings, in informal gatherings, in water-cooler conversations, with clients and other stakeholders, outside of work and even when out shopping.

Their conversations and their interactions are driven by their need for recognition and acknowledgment. To feel emotionally secure, they need to be seen as "somebody."
Yet this "somebody" is based less on asking, "Do you know who I am?" than it is on inquiring, "Do you recognize the credential that I possess?" As a result, the person becomes a "something" — a set of inanimate credentials - instead of the "somebody" they so long to be.

Even the response to the question, "What do you do?" is an "I am…" statement. A "be-ing," not a "do-ing." Because they are their credentials, "who I am" becomes "a qualified engineer," "a French professor," "an accountant with 30-years experience, "a project manager", "a banker", or "a Ph.D in physics," not Maya, or Rehman, or David D'Souza.

But why do you even need to be anybody?

What would it be like to consciously choose to be a "nobody", to be who and what you are without the need to back it up with some written diploma or proof of expertise?

To allow yourself to explore and be curious about what you see in yourself?

To be a nobody and show up authentically without the crutch of the credential?

What would it feel like if you went through an hour, a day, a week, a month, a year, even a lifetime, without needing to be somebody at all?

Just show up as who you are right here and right now, in all your authentic humanity?

It might look like you are ready to own your mistakes -and not blame others for errors.

It might allow you to own your embarrassment, your shyness, and your vulnerability - and support you to guard against any tendency to become "too big for your britches," or come across as arrogant, holier-than-thou, or super(wo)man.

Best of all, if you decided to shed any cloak of fakeness, phoniness, and pretending, you might allow yourself more often to say "I don't know." or "What do you think?"

What else?

Well, as a "nobody," you could learn to become more interested in others and let go of our ego. You could become more inclusive in thought, word, and deed; more open and accepting — operating with the notion that "I am one of you," and "We are in this together for our mutual good."

Being a "nobody" would let you seek to understand before being understood; to stand back, inquire, observe and listen; to walk for a while in others' shoes.

You could let go of power, status, title, and qualifications, moving away from desiring always to be center stage — maybe even move to being behind the scenes.It would be okay – even refreshing - not to be "the expert," and become servant rather than master.

Finally, being a nobody would help you become flexible rather than rigid; to get out of your own way; to become quieter, more self-reflective and more self-observant.

In a word, humble.

Being authentic in your life at work means accepting, simply, "I am me." Not, "I am my job" or "I am my credential."

Just me.

Being a nobody means looking up at the vast, vast Universe and knowing that none of us are at the center of it, - Regardless even of our loftiest credentials. Just Nobody

That's why here and now I decide, I'll be better off, being JUST NOBODY NOW!

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